Pick the areas you want to talk through, and we'll build a warm set of open-ended questions to work through together. It's a conversation, not a test — no score, no sign-up. Print it and make it a habit.
Our Marriage Check-Up
A conversation guide from Harvestly Home · harvestlyhome.com
Why a regular check-up matters
Most marriages don't drift apart in a single blow-up — they drift in the quiet, in a hundred unspoken things and a schedule that never slows down enough to notice. A regular check-up is simply a decision to slow down on purpose: to ask the questions you'd otherwise assume you already know the answers to, and to actually listen. Keep it kind, keep it curious, and keep it regular. For the weekly rhythm version, read our weekly marriage check-in, and for the harder conversations, communication that actually works in marriage.
Frequently Asked Questions
A marriage check-up is a regular, intentional conversation where a couple talks honestly about how their relationship is doing — connection, communication, finances, intimacy, faith, and more. It's not a test with a score. It's a set of open-ended questions that help you slow down, listen well, and reconnect on purpose.
Many couples do a short check-in weekly and a longer, deeper one monthly or each season. The rhythm matters more than the length — a regular 20-minute conversation you actually keep does more than an occasional marathon you dread. Pick a cadence you can sustain.
No. There's no score, no verdict, and nothing to pass or fail. This tool simply gives you thoughtful, open-ended questions to talk through together. The goal is understanding and connection, not evaluation.
Pick a calm time with no distractions, agree to listen without defending, assume the best about each other, and take turns answering fully before responding. Keep it kind, stay curious rather than accusatory, and consider closing in prayer together. The point is to feel more like a team, not to win a point.
